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When your child will not go to school

School refusal is often driven by anxiety, and it usually gets harder the longer a student stays home. A step-by-step plan for families, and when to get help.

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Understand it

Notice the pattern: which days, which classes, which times
Ask calmly what feels hardest; avoid arguing about it in the morning
Rule out medical causes with your child's doctor
Watch for bullying, a learning difficulty or a change at school

Make a return plan

Meet with the school counselor and agree on one plan
Start small: arrive for one class or a set part of the day, then build up
Agree on a calm place and person at school when anxiety spikes
Keep home on school days boring: no screens or fun during school hours

Get help

Ask the school about a 504 plan or an evaluation if anxiety or a disability is involved
A therapist experienced with anxiety in teens can help a lot; cognitive behavioral therapy is a common approach
If your child talks about hurting themselves, call or text 988, or 911 in an emergency

General information from Caveat Academic Services, not legal, medical or financial advice. Rules vary by state, school and college; confirm with each one.

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